- Please Introduce yourself, what is your name, business name, where you are from?
My name’s Rhian, I’m from Looe in Cornwall, UK and my business is RhianKivits.com
- What is your business about?
I’m a Conscious Dating & Relationship Consultant, Love & Intimacy Mentor and Founder of The Soulmate Success System.
I work with clients (mostly women and couples) from all over the world online using my unique blend of psychotherapeutic techniques and mind-body-soul wisdom.
My mission is to help successful, ambitious women become just as fearless, magnetic and lucky in love. I believe that we all deserve to enjoy purposeful relationships that add value to our lives, supportive partners who desire to learn, grow and expand alongside us and intimate connection that helps us feel fully self expressed on every level.
I work 1:1 with clients on a bespoke basis under my Love Lessons service or Soulmate Success System. This might involve solving specific sex or relationship issues, learning how to enjoy intimacy more, navigating the dating game or heavier issues, like recovering from a painful past, divorce or abuse in order to move forward.
I also run holistic group programs for women online on topics like women’s sexual healing, sensuality, self love and orgasmic manifestation! We need to learn how to heal and love ourselves because ultimately we are our own Soulmates as a starting point.
- What made you get into this line of business?
If you wind the clock back on my own life about 12 years or so, I was living a city life stuck in unfulfilling, demanding jobs and trapped in a dysfunctional marriage with no compatibility or true connection. I was carrying so many burdens from my own past and struggling to be a good mum to my children. Although I had a level of professional success and on the outside it looked like I had a good life, underneath I was struggling to cope. My mental health was suffering, I felt lonely, numb and empty and I’d chosen a partner who was never going to be able to meet my needs.
I woke up to the fact that things had to change. Essentially I knew that it was my responsibility to change my situation and my emotional state. I started to become interested in holistic healing and quit my miserable job to start my own spiritual business as a complementary therapist. As I learned new skills and started to open up to the world of emotion and energy, I was on my own personal journey of healing and awakening which helped me learn the value of inner work and personal growth.
Eventually, I qualified as a psychodynamic couple therapist and took training in sex therapy. I knew my mission was to help other people enjoy better relationships, not only with partners, but with themselves too. I explored alternative approaches to relationships like Tantra and Taoism. I began to combine all my knowledge so that I could work on every level – mind, body and soul.
- What makes you get up and go in the morning, do you have a morning power routine?
I’m a busy mum with children so my mornings usually start with them. We live by the sea, so I always take some mindful breaths of ocean air when taking the children to school – it’s informal, but this really is a power routine! I also try to do something to motivate and balance myself each morning too. This can vary – it may be a spot of self-healing with Reiki or Egyptian Seichem, it may be a meditation, it may be journaling or gratitude practice.
- What is the best advice you have ever been given?
I love the Reiki principles, which each start with ‘Just for today’. I feel we put a lot of pressure on ourselves as entrepreneurs to improve and perform and sometimes this can be stressful or cause anxiety. But when I remind myself to do the best I can in my life, my work or as a mum, step by step, ‘just for today’, I know that I can be present in the here and now, and that I can trust myself to take care of tomorrow when it comes. As I’ve struggled with anxiety from a young age, I find this approach really supportive. I believe in being kind and compassionate with ourselves.
- What is a book you would say everyone must read?
Women who run with the wolves by Clarissa Pinkola Estes
This is a fabulous, powerful book filled with inspiring stories of feminine strength. Plus it’s written by a psychoanalyst – so it speaks to my soul and my love of symbolism as well as my professional side.
- Does your business have any offers on at present or coming up?
I have a free download I’d love to offer: bit.ly/soulmateguide
It’s my simple system that shows you exactly how to harness the emotional power of chakra affirmations so that you can attract soulmate love.
The guide is ideal for any woman who’s looking to find a new soulmate partner or who’d like to deepen her connection with her existing partner.
- What one thing do you do to change your mindset instantly?
I’ve learned from my experience of tantric bodywork and taoist approaches that when we activate our Chi (our life force energy) we create a positive, helpful body chemistry that can make us feel more energised and banish those negative thoughts that make us feel sluggish or demotivated.
I raise my Chi through shaking meditation or 10 minutes of dancing to uplifting music.
- What do you love most about helping others?
I absolutely love seeing the impact of my work on my clients. They tell me how I’ve helped them turn around failing relationships, find freedom from their past abuse or discovered confidence after a lifetime of hiding away. This really makes my heart sing – it’s such a fabulous feeling to know that you’ve touched someone’s life and they’re happier or more successful as a result.
I also appreciate that I’m constantly learning from my clients because human beings are so diverse and my work is so fascinating. It’s a true privilege to get to know people so well, and to understand more about myself in the process.
- Your favourite quote?
Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere – they are in each other all along – Rumi
I adore this quote because it creates such a beautiful image. Love is meant to be and I really believe we all deserve to experience it. I believe when two people form a deep, loving relationship what they create together is bigger than the sum of its parts and that it is through experiencing love that we can expand into our highest potential. And the journey to finding love is also about finding ourselves. Be it to see it, as they say!